I remember our last homestudy appointment, sitting in our practitioner’s office happily finishing up a few forms. It had been 6 months since we had started, and we were relieved and excited to be moving forward. Our practitioner said of the wait, “now this is going to be the hard part”. I remember thinking, “how could this be the hard part? We’re just waiting, the hard part is over for now!”
She was right.
When you’re signing forms and getting references and check-ups and everything else, even when its frustrating, you at least feeling like you’re moving forward. But after everything is finished, you have no idea how long it will be until the next step – being chosen.
You never know how quickly a match could happen, so while you have the time there are things you can do!
- Start a blog. Include the link in all your social media profiles.
- Create an adoption Facebook page and invite your family and friends to share it.
- Sign up with a profile marketing service such as Canada Adopts, Adoption Profiles.ca, America Adopts or Adoptimist
- Research baby products and read reviews. There is an overwhelming amount of choices when it comes to strollers, car seats, and bottles!
- Create a registry or essentials list. Sites like Amazon and Baby List allow you to add items from any website, without being locked into a set due date (Amazon requires a due date but you can change it as often as you wish). Baby List even lets you sign up for home-cooked meals, second-hand clothes or babysitting
- Join an adoption support group or online forum, such as the Adoption Support group on Babycenter.com
- Take a baby/child CPR course.
- Take care of those projects around the house you’ve been meaning to start or finish.
- Plan the nursery or child’s room. Check out gender neutral nursery inspiration, even if you don’t want to make any changes yet.
- Start thinking of baby names. Websites like Nameberry can help you see how popular your favourite names are. Keep a shortlist of ones you both like. Keep in mind an expectant mother may have a name she would like you to use, but she may want to know ones you’ve both been thinking about.
- Get a jump start on learning how to swaddle.
- Research adding a baby or child to your health insurance plan
- Review what kind of leave you will be entitled to from the government and your work place after a child is placed with you. In Ontario both new adoptive parents have the right to take parental leave of up to 37 weeks of unpaid time off work.
- Find a pediatrician. Research pediatricians in your area online and through recommendations from friends and family, or ask if your family doctor has room to take your future child on as a patient. Family doctors in our area fill up very fast.
- Sleep in!